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Nov 16
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Degradation triggers, according to my friend who coined the term, are turn-ons from actions and roles that normally fall outside the structure of conventional sex. His point was not whether it was freaky that some people like to be pissed on. Rather, he mused that everyone has a trigger like this -- something that feels wrong but it just feels so right.
Degradation triggers come in tiers of deviance, known as pissing levels, that are calculated on four factors. Those are 1) the type of fluid involved, 2) duration of the event, 3) the ingestion requirement, and 4) the potential for harm. The result indicates how deviant the trigger is from conventional sexual acts. Three of the four factors (the exception being No. 3) are measured on a six-point scale that breaks down like this:
1 -- safe, pleasant, no loss of self-respect
2 -- minimal risk involved, mildly repugnant, minimal loss of dignity
3 -- some risk involved, socially abhorrent, potentially humiliating
4 -- greater risk involved, unequivocally gross, requires strong resolve
5 -- life-threatening risk involved, repellent in no uncertain terms, unwavering willpower necessary
6 -- dangerous and disgusting and bordering on psychopathic
Type of fluid involved
Maybe it goes without saying, but this doesn’t always have to be bodily fluids. There’s piss, poop, spit, vomit, blood, and then all other secretions. But taken from outside the body, there are a nearly limitless number of possible sources ranging from milder (lubricant) to wilder (hot wax).
Duration of the event
Self-explanatory -- the length of time the person is expected to endure said trigger before sexual thrill (though not necessarily release) occurs.
Ingestion required?
This is simply a 0, 1 measurement. 0=no ingestion required. 1=ingestion required. No partial credit here.
The potential harm
For some things, the potential for harm is part of the thrill. For others (like asphyxiation) it is simply a necessary risk involved.
Measured on these four factors, you can pretty much take any sexual act and compare against any other or against a norm like missionary position intercourse -- which I think even without the scale we can agree is largely considered the standard for sexual appropriateness. But let’s throw it on the scale anyway!
Missionary Position versus Golden Shower
Type of fluid involved: (Missionary) potentially semen, saliva and maybe some other benign secretions. While it’s true that sex isn’t always safe (STDs) pleasant (ugly people, virgins) or involving no loss of self-respect (ugly virgin) the fact is that it’s hard to argue this isn’t a 1.
(Golden S) urine. 3.
Duration of the event: (Missionary) the only way you could argue this up to 2 is if you want to claim some loss of dignity if the guy prematurely ejaculated. Otherwise, it’s a 1.
(Golden S) most people can only pee in a steady stream for less than a minute, so 2.
Ingestion requirement: (Missionary) No, 0.
(Golden S) correct me if I’m wrong, but there is no actual requirement for swallowing right? Maybe I’ve just been doing it wrong. 0.
The potential harm: (Missionary) None. Bodies were meant to do this. 1.
(Golden S) Yes, there is minimal risk. 2.
To tally it up. Missionary position sex is 3, the lowest possible pissing level. Golden shower is 7. Neither really veers that far off of the beaten path of permissible sexual behavior. But you could apply this same calculation to virtually any sexual act, and you should. So next time, come up with a pissing level for whatever you find yourself doing in the bedroom. Take my word for it, it’s good for a small thrill.
